The Civilist Podcast With Steven Petrow

Fed up with flaming and unfriending, snark and shade, when discussing hot button issues like politics, religion, guns, LGBTQ rights and more? Then it’s time to join The Civilist with the Washington Post’s Steven Petrow as he and his guests take on the issues you care about. Petrow’s guests are Red, Blue, and Purple—and his focus is on how to talk together, not who’s right or wrong. He’s determined to make American kind again.

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In this all-advice episode, Steven Petrow answers a handful of questions from his mailbag. He’ll tell you whether you have to tip the owner of a service business, how to make amends for an RSVP wedding failure, and why it’s okay for a gay southern bachelor to call himself a widower. Plus 1A host Joshua Johnson and queer activist James Parker Sheffield weigh in on digital black face and outing a lesbian’s transgender boyfriend.

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It's easy for many to feel a little blue this time of year, now that we're now smack dab in the dark days of December. The holidays can be especially difficult for people who struggle with depression.

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Kim Severson of The New York Times joins me for a  special holiday episode of The Civilist podcast. Right at the top we make a promise: To give you the best advice we know to make your Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or Christmas run smoothly, whether you're talking politics or turkey.

Kim and I tackled a number of “battleground” issues, including:

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In this episode of The Civilist podcast, I invited two kick-ass college senior to join me in answering questions from their peers about college life, free speech, trigger warnings and more.

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With less than two weeks to go before we elect a new president, a third of the US Senate and the entire House of Representatives, it sure is a nasty, beat-'em-up, free-for-all on my social media feeds, especially Facebook and Twitter.

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Earlier this week, #mentalhealthday was a trending topic on Twitter. To end the stigma and breach the loneliness, I hope our attention goes beyond this — very successful — one-day event.

To do just that,  I sat down to talk with the remarkable Andrew Solomon for the latest episode of The Civilist podcast. Solomon, a professor of clinical psychology at Columbia and the author of "Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression," recommends that people come out about their depression, when they can and when it’s safe.

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Steven calls on the wisdom of cancer bloggers who found real-life support systems online. Guest experts Anne Strainchamps and Joshua Johnson return to weigh on on gay PDA at a conservative wedding, cutting in line at the airport, and how to handle that “nasty” relative who's always looking for a fight.

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Steven digs into Bathroom Laws, and just what the rules are for everyone. In New Rules For Better Behavior, is the wife’s word the last word in deciding on baby number 3? Joshua Johnson and Anne Strainchamps also weigh in on how to close an open relationship.

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Steven Petrow sits down to chat with transgender activist and singer Mx. Justin Vivian Bond, who says respect must trump grammar. Guest experts Kim Severson and Shereen Marisol Meraji debate Groucho glasses for a vain man’s next party appearance.

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Hello friends, new and old.

I live in North Carolina, where I write the “Civilities” column for the Washington Post, which is about LGBT and straight social dilemmas. I also pen the “Digital Ethics” column for USA Today.

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