Third grader Dylan Ward says that when he goes to college, he’s going to be a “professional football player, that’s it.”
The shaggy-haired nine-year-old says he has a lot of friends inside and out of his classroom at Marvin B. Smith Elementary School in Burlington, and that they are a healthy mix of boys and girls.
What does he think of girls?
“I do have a girlfriend,” he says. “All I did was just put on a piece of paper, ‘Will...you...marry...me?’”
Given Dylan’s sheer bravado, it’s hard to tell he is in the middle of an academic year that can be especially stressful for kids, parents and teachers. One of the main reasons for this: third grade is the first year students in North Carolina are given standardized tests.
Students’ reading skills in particular are thrown into the spotlight. A study published by the Annie E. Casey Foundation in 2011 of 4,000 kids born over the course of a decade found that kids who couldn’t read as third graders were four times more likely to drop out of high school.
These results are quoted constantly by educators, child advocates, and politicians when talking about education reform. But they don’t seem to be a big concern for Dylan’s mom, Chelsea Ward.
“Oh my goodness. Nine is fun,” she said. “It’s a little challenging, but it’s fun.”
At this age, Dylan is becoming “his own little person,” Ward said.
“He is a very verbal person,” she said. “We sometimes call him the filibuster. That hasn’t changed, since birth. He’s got more reasonable conversations going on this time though.”
As a third grader, Dylan’s become more responsible, his mom said, about his schoolwork, but about other things, too.
“When his little brother wakes up, he brings him downstairs and he sets him up and makes sure he doesn't cry,” she said. “When he does cry, he initiates ‘You are my sunshine’ singing, to try and calm him down and get him in a better place.”
Ward said Dylan takes pleasure in this responsibility, which is common for third graders. By this point, children are often excited to be independent with a lot of different tasks, according to Katherine MacDonald, a Goldsboro pediatrician and mother of three.
“Usually by third grade, your child can get all of their clothes out, and choose what they’re going to wear that day, MacDonald said. “They can choose their breakfast and pour their own cereal and milk...in the morning. And get their lunch box together.”
In other words, she said, they are more self-sufficient.
“Well, they can be,” she said. “It depends on the child and how hard you push them. I would say my oldest is probably a little lazier because I didn’t know what to expect of him. But then once you have one, you’re like, ‘Oh, they can do more than I’m expecting [them] to do.’”
She said before that, some kids may not have the fine motor skills to accomplish these tasks on their own.
“Some kids tie their shoes when they’re five-and-a-half or six,” she said. “And some, it takes them until they’re about eight.”
That gets at an important point in all this -- one that parents hear repeatedly from their pediatricians and from baby books: that there is a huge range within any one grade level of children.
“You’re going to have kids that can read high school-level novels in third grade. And you’re going to have children who can’t read at all in third grade,” said Adam Holland, a researcher at the Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute in Chapel Hill.
Most third graders in North Carolina must now prove they can read well before being fully promoted to the fourth grade. Legislators enacted the policy in 2012.
Dylan, for one, doesn’t have to worry about this. He just met certain reading benchmarks that guarantee he won’t be held back. That’s in spite of his dislike of reading, but perhaps because of the type of environment he’s been raised in.
His mom is a doctor and his dad an analyst. There are books on every floor of his family’s three-story house. And Dylan’s mom often has him read to his younger brother and sister.
But for some of Dylan’s peers, whose families may not have bedtime reading or even books, learning to read on grade level could prove overwhelming.
“You don’t have to wonder for long why we have a lot of anxious kids these days that we’re raising,” said MacDonald, the Goldsboro pediatrician. “Because it’s kind of anxiety-provoking to always feel like you’re being assessed or tested or brought out to the hallway to see, is your writing any better than it was three months ago, or did you plateau, you know?”